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11 March 2025 - On Intimacy and 1:1 Encounters


(Sinders & Gad el Rab 2024)
Reading and experiencing the work of Caroline Sinders and Romy Gad el Rab Body-Phone-Complex in Delfina’s Foundation’s event - A Night of Encounters reframed how I think about intimacy in digital and performance art. Their 1:1 sessions, which are quiet interventions where visitors reflect on the emotional entanglement with their phones, reminded me that intimate conversation can be both art and method. What they stage is not a spectacle, but an invitation.

As I shape Pillow Talk, the performative layer of Home is a dwelling path, I reflect on this performance Body-Phone-Complex. It’s not just about the digital space people explore below, but also what follows that moment of quiet reflection, when I ask them to bring a pillow and come up to the upper bunk and talk. Like Caroline and Romy, I do not promise therapy or a solution. But I offer space and moment of reflection.

Their phrasing, 'Does your phone feel like part of you?' influenced the kind of questions I wanted to ask. Not interrogative, but tender. Open-ended. With room for silence. Our objects shape us: phones, beds, screens. In my work, it's the domestic furniture, scent, or taste that holds memory, and it’s through this staged closeness that participants might begin to share their own “fragments of home.”

This performance piece solidified my belief in the small-scale, intimate performance, specifically the soft, durational gesture. It reminded me that care, vulnerability, and shared presence can be as powerful as any polished output. Even if no words are spoken, being in the same breath for 15 minutes is enough.
© melisssayunzhi, 2025